Tuesday, 6 January 2015

Let it go, let it go...

Quick updates before I get down to my point:

- We've pretty much settled into our new home.
- I've sold the motorbike and am trying to sell my Subaru Forester (leave a comment if interested)
- Bought a lorry which goes off-road properly

A Nissan Navara pick-up truck in your language. We call these things "utes" (short for "utility")
Incidentally, you don't need a 4WD or AWD to access a campsite like this. You'd make it here in a Honda Jazz.
- Visited a bunch of other places and picked a variety of different sorts of fruit

Mundane stuff. Nothing much to see here. Just our lives as we chose to live it. And of course sometimes we have to adapt to situations or challenges as they pop up. Life will never be a bed of roses, certainly not if you choose to emigrate or make any significant changes at all in your life.

Now, for what I think some people might do well to hear and internalise. Specifically my fellow emigres from sg.


Holding on to sg does nobody any good. Not yourselves, not your immediate family members here, not your friends and family over there. Especially if such things bother you.

You can take potshots at whichever poleeticians you wish. You can rant at a "Foreign Talent" from TTSH allegedly posting racist stuff on FB. You can keep tabs on sg news and get really riled up by the happenings over there.

Or you could simply Let It Go.

Now, I didn't come up with this idea/method/formula, but it has worked well for me. A fellow migrant from sg told me that shortly after he reached Melbourne, he unfollowed all social media news feeds from sg and maybe unfollowed or unfriended people who had a habit of posting and sharing such news.

I said "maybe" because that's what I did. I unliked or unfollowed Jentrified Citizen, SDP, TOC, TRS, just to name a few. I unfollowed those on my Facebook who posted such news. My newsfeed took on a very different look after all that.

And I just sat here in relative radio silence for awhile. Well, news-wise anyway. There's quite a bit happening in Oz and around the world. Took a little getting used to but it wasn't hard at all. Small 'price' to pay to avoid being burdened by the happenings from sg.

Next up, I had to remind myself to stop or at least limit the comparisons between here and sg. As our readers might have noticed, we've stopped blogging regularly, and this is partly why.

Singapore has been "there", in our hearts and minds for the longest time. We wouldn't go "back" to sg. We would go "there" and "return to Melbourne". Most certainly we don't refer to it as "home", and often we have to correct friends, colleagues and classmates when they ask when we are "going home" (my usual response is 5.30pm)

To put it bluntly, Singapore had to kind of cease to exist for us. There's nothing to hold on to. Or maybe "cease to exist" is too extreme. It's just the place we happened to be born in. No special significance whatsoever. Yes we have dear friends and family over there, but that's it.

Now you can choose to always love sg, or you can choose to let it go. We made our choice, and it has worked out very well for us. Mainly me, as A never had the sort of attachment or strong feelings to/against sg that I used to have.

I remember a lot of Singaporeans complaining that the FTs in sg clung to their old ways and stuck to their own kind, speaking their own languages. I can tell you that these "FTs" in Oz do the same thing too.

So do the Singaporeans I've met here. Most of them anyway.

What makes you any different?

At the end of the day, your life, your choice, as always. As long as we have no regrets, it's all good :)

-S

24 comments:

  1. if you have let it go, why do you still put up this post leh?

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  2. This was written for a selected handful of my fellow migrants from sg in Melbourne.

    Oh trust me, I know I've pretty much let go when the recent columbarium issue doesn't bother me (if anything, I think the people complaining are a bunch of whiners), and having FTs insult "Stinkaporeans" doesn't bother me in the least either.

    But it helps that I don't see ourselves as Singaporean. Ok lah we still do have the accent and there's still residual singlish here and there. But that's okay. There's no need to struggle to excise all aspects of "Singaporean-ness" completely. We are who we are, and that's that :)

    -S

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  3. And to add on, it's been quite a few months that I've realised that I've let it go. You will realise it when the news from that place doesn't bother you any more.

    As a test, I've re-followed some of the friends whom I had unfollowed. I still don't subscribe to sg news, but not a deliberate attempt to avoid completely. Rather, it is of negligible relevance. We still see news here and there from our friends and it was impossible to eradicate completely. But the steps outlined above can help to reduce exposure, for those still in the process

    Personally, right now I'm only interested in CPF news and I'm sure it's obvious why. :p

    -S

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  4. Welcome. See u around at tastygate.

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    1. Hi Thomas. We eat there not more often than once a month.

      Even then only because our friend who lives around the area usually invites us to go there. Nevertheless, do say hi if you see us there :)

      Frankly we prefer home-cooked food, and to try different eating places and different types of cuisine. Eating at the same place time and again was soooo passe. Last time it was Glory Cafe (which closed down).

      In saying that, Tastygate is decent value for money and the food is not bad. It's just that we are past sg/malaysian food.

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  5. i checked, heng i never get deleted

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    1. You post so infrequently.. Anyway your posts are very entertaining unlike ours. So count me as your steadfast follower

      -S

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  6. You refer to 'FT's as though you're not one now :)

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    1. Hey I'm not sure if you noticed the inverted commas ("like so") when I referred to "Foreign Talent". Now try and guess why I used those. Question is open to the floor, though I could easily explain myself.

      After all, most of our readership consists of sinkies...

      -S

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  7. Nice to see yr update :) pity u sold yr bike. Maybe u can get a boat for some water sports and fishing.

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    1. Hi Yu Bin,

      Thanks for your suggestion. Right now, we don't have much disposable income for frivolous toys like that. But maybe one day. It is a nice idea!

      I will probably get another bike after I'm off my restrictions. That will mean I can choose from any bike model on the market here. Bikes allowed under the restricted license are not only slow, they are overpriced as well.

      Well frankly I'd rather have sold the Forester instead of the bike, but I had to sell something and someone bought the bike first. Otherwise I'd still be riding it now...

      -S

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  8. Hi Fellow Singaporean,

    We know how you feel. But we hope that when the time comes, I pray that all our overseas Singaporeans will unite and work with us to reclaim our beautiful island, though badly scarred now by bad fake leaders.

    Just remember you are welcome back anytime. You are still a part of us growing up.

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    1. I'm not sure you know how we feel, unless you've been in the same spot before.

      Truth of the matter is, I'm assuming you mean the General Election? Now to be honest, most Singaporeans I know here who did not "let it go" to the extent we did, would not "unite and work with" you guys. Moreover, not everyone who migrated to Oz (or elsewhere in the world) may be as politically-inclined as you are. Many are PAP supporters as well.

      So let me manage your expectations here and now. Don't expect much from those who are overseas. Let alone us.

      But nice to know that we are welcome THERE. But home is always the best place to be ;). And home is here in Melbourne.

      -S

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  9. Hi S! Thanks for sharing your story. I agree that Life in Sg is becoming more unsustainable as our cost of living keeps rising but our salaries & savings barely do. I feel that voicing out to the govt doesn't solve many of our deep set issues either and it will probably take ages before we can see those changes. Hence, I am thinking of migrating but I have a few questions in my mind.

    Just to give some background info first, I am currently a full time Primary & Sec Math tutor at a center and I hold a management degree. I wish to continue teaching in small groups/classes, if possible. What are the chances of me getting in as a tuition teacher? Is there a cert that I should take before going over/ while I am there? If chances are low, what close alternatives do you think there are?

    Also, which state would be best for getting jobs in avionics?

    Hope you can help me with this!
    Thanks S!

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    1. To be a 'proper' ie non-dodgy tuition teacher, you need certification from AITSL. For that you will need a teaching cert like A, such as the PGDE from NIE.

      I suppose anyone can freelance as anything. I've been a car washer, fish and chip delivery boy (by car) and pizza delivery boy (by motorbike). Now I'm a certified mechanic. I used to be a Frigate Navigating Officer when I was in sg.. so....

      Seek.com.au is your friend for this. I never had an interest in avionics jobs. So off the top of my head I don't have the answers and CBF to Google. I'm sure you'll manage ;)

      -S

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  10. Hi Delye. I'm not publishing your comment, I think I deleted the previous one as well for no other reason than your email address was within.

    I would prefer that any questions you have be asked in public. I think I've mentioned this before elsewhere in comments.

    1. We like our private lives. (ok I'm half kidding)
    2. Your questions may not be unique. The question and resulting answers are likely to help someone else.
    3. Other people may be reading and can help you. And also maybe help someone else.

    So unless you have some salacious or private matter that is of no interest to anyone else, then please give us a bit more reason as to why this has to be handled offline..

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    1. Hi. Nice to hear from you. Firstly to begin with, we are a family of 4 with 2 kids hoping to migrate to Australia. I'm secondary school trained. I must say your migration chapters have been very useful in helping us decide not to engage an agent. Their fees are not cheap too. However, I do have the following questions and would appreciate if you guys could help me.

      1) As per my informal session with an agent, they actually requested for my payslips to be submitted for the skills assessment. Do you submit yours? Is it really necessary?

      2) I have gotten my practicum statement from NIE. In the letter, does it have to state my teaching subject(s)?

      3) I have also gotten my employment reference letter from MOE. However, I remember reading that your letter has got the number of working hours stated. Mine does not, and when I tried to request for the info to be added, the HR officer said she was not able to do that. Unless I request for my school AM to write another letter with the number of hours stated. Again, is it necessary to provide the number of working hours? If yes, how many hours are they actually looking at? This is because I have plans to request for part-time teaching load when I return from my NPL.

      4) And yes, as I have mentioned, I am currently on NPL and will return to school in Semester 2 this year. Meanwhile, I'm preparing for my IELTS which I plan to sit for it some time in April. I'm nervous just thinking about having to hit the books again and sitting for exam. Plus, my CS is ML, so I am also planning to claim bonus points for community language. Not to sure how is the demand like for LOTE teachers, should everything goes nice and smooth that our visa application is successful. Any idea?

      5) Do you have any contacts to link me up to, for migrating parents like myself with 2 kids in tow? That would be great!

      6) Last but not least, for the documents to be certified, does my GP friend have to sign on every page along with the CTC stamp? Any company stamp required?

      Hope to hear from you soon.

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    2. I hope to share these info:

      1) Most assessments in Aussie bodies need to have the payslips as a criterial in their reviewing works. Knowing your fellow colleagues' pay-scales or grades is pretty common in Aussie land, in fact some companies have published these publicly, unlike most Asian countries.

      3) It is necessary to state the number of working hours ( per week ) in your employment reference / letter. They want to define whether you are working causally, Part-Time, Full-Time, Temporary in Aussie terms.

      6) Since GP ( is a friend ), it is better to have the signature and company stamp on every page.

      Hope it helps

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  11. Actually I'm happy that you guys are pretty settled in, as in calling Melbourne home. I think that the most important thing, to know where your home is. Where your home is, is your identity. It's really important to know where you belong. Good on you, guys!

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    1. Cheers MM. Comments like yours made my day. I don't crave praise, but I really appreciate true understanding :)

      -S

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  12. Hi again, did i send through?

    i was asking about whether purchasing 2nd car from dealer or private owner in term of car price, potential maintenance problem, warranty, paperworks etc?

    i did walk around dealer place and notice information about whether has the car ever went off registration and dealer is required to provide 3 months warranty for car age less than 10 and mileage less than 160km.

    Beside these 2, are there other tell tale signs of getting a bad deal?

    Or is it better off getting a new japanese car with drive off price.

    Thank you

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    1. Hi test,

      I have no easy answer for this, and my previous posts were when I had less experience and perspective on this matter.

      But to make life easier for you, if you're ok with Jap cars, stick to Toyota and Subaru ;). That much I can vouch for.

      I've worked on a heap of Hondas and I now work at a Mazda dealership. I've also seen a decent spread of makes and models in the past couple of months.

      And just so that you know I'm not a fanboy, I currently own a Nissan. Nothing really wrong with this one so far (FINGERS CROSSED TOUCH WOOD), and not in a hurry to get rid of it. But I'd avoid Nissans in general, among the japs. And hondas.

      -S

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  13. Such an apt phrase, simple yet effective. Glad you guys are like totes settled in and it never occurred to me to 'shut off' from those social media sites :)

    Am not 'there' (Melb) yet but my partner is and we are planning to get married and finally getting my partner visa sorted.

    Before this, I had posted a comment in Jan'16, but am not sure if it was posted at all or not (don't get a notification of it at all).

    Before I decided to go ahead with the partner visa, the visa to apply for a PR was / is a very painful and to be honest, expensive one. Long story cut short, my business skills are not in the SOL or CSOL list except in SA which has to come with the clause of being state nominated.

    Take care guys! Perhaps, might bump into you in the future. Don't worry, I wont bug u. :)

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    1. Hi D. All the best with the visa application process. I know another couple who got the bridging visa for the spouse pretty quick, and that's got all the privileges of PR too.

      I think I did reply to your comment but not sure which post. Unfortunately that's the limitation of Blogger...

      -S

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